i have recently come to the conclusion that life is all about choices. at first this might sound obvious; you choose where you want to go to school, you choose what you wear everyday. but i have figured out one key choice that im pretty sure, most people haven't ever considered a choice. i don't need to get into the reasons of why i came to this conclusion, but i think that more people should give this thought.
the relationships you choose to have, are more important and meaningful than those you are born into. i am not saying by any means that your friend is more important than your mother, im saying you have the CHOICE to make your friend more important than your mother. i choose to have a relationship with my mother, i choose to have my mother be my best friend. basically what i'm trying to say is that you don't have to like your family. just because you are born into a family, does not mean you actually BELONG to it. you can choose to belong if you would like -- the bond is therefore doubly strong. but for those people who aren't exactly born into the best gene pool (read: abusive families, etc), it's not fair to them. they should not be forced to "love" families who mistreat them--it's not fair. i don't believe blood is thicker than water, i believe love is thicker than water
Sunday, September 28, 2008
Tuesday, September 9, 2008
9-9-08
Does anyone have any common decency anymore? It seems to me that my generation is severely lacking in the courtesy department. I was brought up with the beliefs that if you make plans with someone, you go through with those plans. When you go out with someone on the weekend, you stay with that person. When you go to the movies with a friend, you don’t spend the entire time texting someone else! To me it seems like these basic common courtesies are not just ignored, but often scoffed at, by most people.
I cannot tell you the number of times that I have made plans with someone to only end up either being ditched for something better, or being practically ignored while my friend sent oooey goooey messages back and forth with her boyfriend.
Case in point: this past weekend I went out with some friends. It was meant to be a girls’ night out (yes boys, one of those dreaded things where we basically ignore you all). We were planning on going to a friend’s frat. The party didn’t start until 10 and probably wouldn’t really get going until 11:30 or midnight, but we were looking forward to lots of fun. One of the girls suggested going to one of the apartment complexes first, give the frat a chance to get more crowded.
Guess what happened next? That’s right turns out the only reason she wanted to go to the apartment complex was because her boyfriend was there. She immediately ditched us in favor for her little boy toy. The rest of us ended up getting stuck in a sketchy apartment where we didn’t know anyone. Finally we decided we would leave and she could stay with her bf. The rest of us walked—IN THE POURING RAIN—back to our dorm and never even heard from our so-called friend for the rest of the night. It was only the next afternoon when she came wandering back into the dorm that she acknowledged we had left.
Now, I don’t know about you all, but I find this very rude. If you claim you want to hang out, hang out. If you wanted to hang out with your boyfriend you shouldn’t have made plans with me, you should have made them with him.
I have nothing against boyfriends, I think they are great and can be a great source of comfort and friendship. I’m friends with many of my friends boyfriends. So my argument is not with them. It is with the people who find it acceptable to ditch when they find something better; the people always looking over my shoulder for something else to come along. If you are truly that desperate to hang out with someone else, I’d rather not hang out with you. In fact, just don’t call me in the first place.
I guess I can sum up this little rant in a few words: Don’t just blow off your friends, chances are they will last longer than whatever you are chasing after anyways.
I cannot tell you the number of times that I have made plans with someone to only end up either being ditched for something better, or being practically ignored while my friend sent oooey goooey messages back and forth with her boyfriend.
Case in point: this past weekend I went out with some friends. It was meant to be a girls’ night out (yes boys, one of those dreaded things where we basically ignore you all). We were planning on going to a friend’s frat. The party didn’t start until 10 and probably wouldn’t really get going until 11:30 or midnight, but we were looking forward to lots of fun. One of the girls suggested going to one of the apartment complexes first, give the frat a chance to get more crowded.
Guess what happened next? That’s right turns out the only reason she wanted to go to the apartment complex was because her boyfriend was there. She immediately ditched us in favor for her little boy toy. The rest of us ended up getting stuck in a sketchy apartment where we didn’t know anyone. Finally we decided we would leave and she could stay with her bf. The rest of us walked—IN THE POURING RAIN—back to our dorm and never even heard from our so-called friend for the rest of the night. It was only the next afternoon when she came wandering back into the dorm that she acknowledged we had left.
Now, I don’t know about you all, but I find this very rude. If you claim you want to hang out, hang out. If you wanted to hang out with your boyfriend you shouldn’t have made plans with me, you should have made them with him.
I have nothing against boyfriends, I think they are great and can be a great source of comfort and friendship. I’m friends with many of my friends boyfriends. So my argument is not with them. It is with the people who find it acceptable to ditch when they find something better; the people always looking over my shoulder for something else to come along. If you are truly that desperate to hang out with someone else, I’d rather not hang out with you. In fact, just don’t call me in the first place.
I guess I can sum up this little rant in a few words: Don’t just blow off your friends, chances are they will last longer than whatever you are chasing after anyways.
Thursday, September 4, 2008
9-4-08
So basically this is my first time ever writing a blog and I'm not exactly sure how to go about it. If we are just talking about what happened in class, let me be the first to say, I was incredibly lost. I just switched out of calculus 3 and yesterday was my first day in class. I will completely agree with the girl in the back of the room (sorry I don't know names yet) when she said it seemed like a lot of reading material to cover. When I first looked at the readings, I thought maybe some of them were stuff Dr. M had covered in class...needless to say, they weren't.
I guess I'm supposed to say a little something about myself. My name is Melissa Palmer, I'm a sophomore and a chemistry major here - I have organic chemistry in isat right before this class, so if you see me and I look like the walking dead, that's basically what I am. I'm 18 (turning 19 soon YAY) and I grew up in Northern Virginia.
My mother grew up in an all-Jewish neighborhood in suburban Chicago and my father grew up in a po-dunk town on the Pennsylvania line, riding tractors and working on farms his whole life. I like to compare them to the couple from Green Acres. Since my mom was raised Jewish and my father was raised some form of Christianity, we don't exactly have a religion in my household. I was brought up by standard moral values and taught to be a good person. It's been working pretty well for me so far. As far as my beliefs go, I like to consider myself a liberal and a democrat, but I will fully own up to having a few very right wing values (I’m all for the death sentence).
I am very apprehensive about this coming election. Either way the country will be making history. My dad and I discuss politics all the time and we both agree, the only way Obama can lose at this point is if the young people don't get out and vote. Everyone you talk to says "oh Obama's going to win anyways" but you know what? If everyone thinks that, and no one votes because they think that, we will get stuck with McCain and another 4 years of republican policies. The problem is that the young people come out in great numbers for all the primaries and support the candidates right up until Election Day when laziness gets the best of them.
I noticed there was a person in our class who was taking every opinion/point someone made and turning it into something negative, constantly contradicting and arguing with whatever was said (you probably know who you are). Debate to discuss and expand on ones own opinions is great; arguing just to argue is obnoxious. I would just like to take this opportunity to say this to our young pessimist: every point you made, would only be viable under IDEAL circumstances. I am not bashing your stance, quite on the contrary, all of your statements are true, but at some point you have to stop living in Neverland and become a realist and see that we aren't living in an ideal world. And while we might strive for it, the ideal doesn't happen over night, you can't flip a switch. So while the people in Georgia might not currently be fully educated on issues, that doesn't mean we say the will NEVER be educated. Change takes time. Striving for the ideal is admirable, but not remotely practical. Patience is the key.
I guess I'm supposed to say a little something about myself. My name is Melissa Palmer, I'm a sophomore and a chemistry major here - I have organic chemistry in isat right before this class, so if you see me and I look like the walking dead, that's basically what I am. I'm 18 (turning 19 soon YAY) and I grew up in Northern Virginia.
My mother grew up in an all-Jewish neighborhood in suburban Chicago and my father grew up in a po-dunk town on the Pennsylvania line, riding tractors and working on farms his whole life. I like to compare them to the couple from Green Acres. Since my mom was raised Jewish and my father was raised some form of Christianity, we don't exactly have a religion in my household. I was brought up by standard moral values and taught to be a good person. It's been working pretty well for me so far. As far as my beliefs go, I like to consider myself a liberal and a democrat, but I will fully own up to having a few very right wing values (I’m all for the death sentence).
I am very apprehensive about this coming election. Either way the country will be making history. My dad and I discuss politics all the time and we both agree, the only way Obama can lose at this point is if the young people don't get out and vote. Everyone you talk to says "oh Obama's going to win anyways" but you know what? If everyone thinks that, and no one votes because they think that, we will get stuck with McCain and another 4 years of republican policies. The problem is that the young people come out in great numbers for all the primaries and support the candidates right up until Election Day when laziness gets the best of them.
I noticed there was a person in our class who was taking every opinion/point someone made and turning it into something negative, constantly contradicting and arguing with whatever was said (you probably know who you are). Debate to discuss and expand on ones own opinions is great; arguing just to argue is obnoxious. I would just like to take this opportunity to say this to our young pessimist: every point you made, would only be viable under IDEAL circumstances. I am not bashing your stance, quite on the contrary, all of your statements are true, but at some point you have to stop living in Neverland and become a realist and see that we aren't living in an ideal world. And while we might strive for it, the ideal doesn't happen over night, you can't flip a switch. So while the people in Georgia might not currently be fully educated on issues, that doesn't mean we say the will NEVER be educated. Change takes time. Striving for the ideal is admirable, but not remotely practical. Patience is the key.
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