9-9-08

Does anyone have any common decency anymore? It seems to me that my generation is severely lacking in the courtesy department. I was brought up with the beliefs that if you make plans with someone, you go through with those plans. When you go out with someone on the weekend, you stay with that person. When you go to the movies with a friend, you don’t spend the entire time texting someone else! To me it seems like these basic common courtesies are not just ignored, but often scoffed at, by most people.
I cannot tell you the number of times that I have made plans with someone to only end up either being ditched for something better, or being practically ignored while my friend sent oooey goooey messages back and forth with her boyfriend.
Case in point: this past weekend I went out with some friends. It was meant to be a girls’ night out (yes boys, one of those dreaded things where we basically ignore you all). We were planning on going to a friend’s frat. The party didn’t start until 10 and probably wouldn’t really get going until 11:30 or midnight, but we were looking forward to lots of fun. One of the girls suggested going to one of the apartment complexes first, give the frat a chance to get more crowded.
Guess what happened next? That’s right turns out the only reason she wanted to go to the apartment complex was because her boyfriend was there. She immediately ditched us in favor for her little boy toy. The rest of us ended up getting stuck in a sketchy apartment where we didn’t know anyone. Finally we decided we would leave and she could stay with her bf. The rest of us walked—IN THE POURING RAIN—back to our dorm and never even heard from our so-called friend for the rest of the night. It was only the next afternoon when she came wandering back into the dorm that she acknowledged we had left.
Now, I don’t know about you all, but I find this very rude. If you claim you want to hang out, hang out. If you wanted to hang out with your boyfriend you shouldn’t have made plans with me, you should have made them with him.
I have nothing against boyfriends, I think they are great and can be a great source of comfort and friendship. I’m friends with many of my friends boyfriends. So my argument is not with them. It is with the people who find it acceptable to ditch when they find something better; the people always looking over my shoulder for something else to come along. If you are truly that desperate to hang out with someone else, I’d rather not hang out with you. In fact, just don’t call me in the first place.
I guess I can sum up this little rant in a few words: Don’t just blow off your friends, chances are they will last longer than whatever you are chasing after anyways.