Why do we as humans, who are supposedly acting in our own best interests, continuously place ourselves in unhealthy relationships? I don’t just mean abusive relationships. Relationships can be unhealthy if they cause you to act a certain way, if they make you feel a certain way. Sometimes, the other person is completely unaware of how the relationship changes you, or makes you feel. So why do we continue to cling on to those relationships? Is it that we hope there might be a change? Are we just irrationally throwing ourselves into something just to try to feel like we belong? Or is it that we unconsciously want to change, want to be something – someone – else. Do our relationships even exist? Or are they simply fabricated in our minds as wishful thoughts?
Is there some thing, some urge, some genetic code, in us that makes us want to be part of a larger whole? I think maybe we want to be part of something so much, we almost believe we are part of it. And THAT is why we cling on to those relationships. We want so badly to belong, to feel loved and accepted, that we are willing to put ourselves through heartache and pain. If we were acting in our best interests, would we do that?
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I agree, it is definitely interesting to see why people act this way. I do agree with you that people have a need to be part of a larger whole. We are social creatures, and just as babies thrive off of physical contact so do we as we grow older with social groups and relationships. It doesn't make sense to put ourselves in harmful relationships, and our instincts would tell us to get out of these. But as conscious creatures we have the ability to go against our instincts, and our desire to be accepted is more powerful than these instincts. At least that's my take on it all.
I think that everyone wants to fit it somehow, that seems obvious. As far as people being in unhealthy relationships i guess it could be because they want to fit in in some cases
I think that there are relationships created through wishful thoughts, whether they do or do not exist in reality(what ever reality may be), and a method of change. Through the interaction of others, one's sense and minds are opened and discoveries about ourselves and others are made. Being in a relationship is just part of the large network of ways we interpret things and the more relationships we have, the more ways of looking at the world is open to us. Regarding the bad relationships, sometime individuals just get lost or don't know how to handle the complex situation. There is not handbook that says "How to Deal with Life" that fixes one's exact problems.
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